How to Travel Without Unwanted Attention
While it’s empowering to wear whatever you want, it’s no secret that appearances often dictate the kind of attention you receive. Even women stop and admire those with a striking fashion sense. That doesn’t mean you should walk around in a sack, but dressing strategically can help. Wear what makes you comfortable, but be mindful of how different outfits might draw attention. If you’re alone in an unfamiliar city—especially at night—toning it down with neutral clothing might be the way to go.
Strength in Numbers
Independence is great, but sometimes, it’s safer to travel with a companion. If you’re heading to a sketchy part of town or planning a night out, consider bringing a friend or acquaintance along. Leaving a bar alone? Opt for a taxi instead of walking. Even in outdoor settings like parks or nature reserves, solo travel can send the wrong message in some cultures. A personal experience: while hiking alone in China, a local man followed me, persistently asking if I often hiked alone. When I said yes, he seemed intrigued—then pulled out a condom and suggested a break from my hike. In that moment, I wished I had invited a friend.
Choose Your Ride Wisely
Taxis can be a safer option than walking, but they can also be uncomfortable. Some drivers cross boundaries—touching a passenger’s leg, asking for a number, or staring excessively at red lights. Always sit in the backseat and research reputable taxi companies. If unsure, ask your hotel, hostel, or bar to call a trusted service for you.
The Power of a Ring
A woman shouldn’t need to “belong” to a man to be left alone, but in some places, wearing a ring on your wedding finger works wonders. Simply stating that you’re married can deter persistent suitors. When polite refusals weren’t working, I started saying I was married—and suddenly, the conversation ended. Saying I had a boyfriend, on the other hand, rarely had the same effect.
Politeness Isn’t Always Necessary
We’re often raised to be polite—smile back, wave, acknowledge greetings. But when traveling alone, those small gestures can mean different things in different cultures. A simple hello or wave can be taken as an invitation for more. Be confident, be stern. A quick nod or brief wave is enough. No need to encourage further interaction.
Know the Local Norms
Different cultures have different expectations regarding gestures, body language, and clothing. A seemingly innocent action in your home country might be interpreted differently elsewhere. Research the local customs before you travel. Even clothing norms vary—while short skirts might be acceptable, showing cleavage could be considered highly provocative. In China, for instance, revealing legs is common, but exposing even a little cleavage is seen as overtly sexy. Avoid sending the wrong signals unintentionally.
Travel Fearlessly, But Smartly
Traveling solo as a woman is bold and commendable. Staying safe doesn’t mean compromising your independence. It’s about being aware and making smart choices. As long as you feel comfortable, safe, and in control, do whatever is necessary to avoid unwanted attention. After all, your journey should be nothing short of amazing.